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Shiver me timbers, this rain and thunder! D:

The storm today had thunder that made me jump just a little and the dog shivering uncontrollably. Even before it came, Donna was already communicating her nervousness, putting her front paws on my chair as she tried to attain some height.

I took out the new pack of doggy sausage from the refrigerator and sat in the living room, cutting it into tiny treats ready to disburse to the dog every time the thunder rolled.

But when the thunder hammered across the sky, she was one mass of jiggling nerves. I’m serious. If you had put your arms around her, she would have felt like a violently trembling Osim massage machine.

The rare treat of being on the sofa gave her no comfort, she tried to climb the coffee table. That was too dangerous. I stopped her. She didn’t feel safe with me, she ran off to poke at the child gate barricading the kitchen, seeking safety elsewhere. Needless to say, the doggy sausage went largely unheeded.

Finally I called her to come and put a t-shirt on her, hoping that having something she was not used to on her would distract her enough to calm her down a little.  When she finally settled,  it was under the coffee table, enduring the irrational doggy voices in her head. 

Suzanne Clothier says it is OK to comfort the dog. The challenge is how does one do that when the dog has already tuned you out?

Hugging the dog is not the option here, Donna does not like to be hugged. She could put up with it on occasion, but hugging her when her tail is already tucked in between her legs just seemed to me to be heaping further pressure on her.

She likes to be petted, but on her own terms and only when she comes looking for you.

That’s why in general, I can only take the measure of her fear by offering her treats. She ignores them when she is too absorbed in her fears. If she had the presence of mind to take them when offered, it means she was gotten calmer.

When she took the bit of tuna I offered, I took the T-shirt off her again. She grinned pretty happily like it was a load off her back. But the thunder continued and she stopped taking the food on my hand, focusing on the fear that has gripped her doggy mind. So I put the T-shirt back on her.

Nope, she has not mastered her fears although she is slightly more responsive with the T-shirt back on. She is worried but not so much now. She tail is only slightly tucked inwards rather than totally curled. Still nervous though judging by ow distracted she is, her ears, eyes and panting.

I’m not sure if the T-shirt helped or made it worse, but at least she settled by my feet and the massage-machine level of trembling had disappeared. She was still salivating more than normal because of the heightened excitement.

I kept offering tuna to her nose but it didn’t work. Since she had laid down by my feet, I sat calmly cutting up the rest of the slighted sausage, packing them into a container for use as training treats at a later time. On hindsight, perhaps I should have petted her more?

Eventually I tried stooping down and getting her attention while offering the tuna. It worked. And as the thunder lightened, I switched to the sausage treats.  That worked too. Good.

Here it is the container of tiny cut sausage treats, the result of today’s endeavour to slowly lift her reaction to thunder with food. She went into an automatic sit and was trying her hardest to telepathically send feed me messages. Hah! Fine, one last tiny piece for her.

She’s quite adaptable with the t-shirt.

She gave up lobbying for treats after she realised I was not giving anymore since the rain had stopped. She had somehow managed to get her front paws through the collar of the shirt. I thought it made her look like a Japanese geisha with the obi belt. Haha :P

I felt quite drained after the storm. She must feel so too.

After the rain, we prepared to go out for a much needed walk in the cooled evening air. She sputtered with disgust as I squirted ear cleaner liquid into her ears against her will. She hated me. More than she hated the thunder at that moment probably. She poured all her anger into her beloved Dentastix that she chomped on vehemently, a goodwill gesture on my part for inflicting the ear torture on her.

Then we headed out for a simple walk, no training. Just brisk walking to clear both our heads and our souls.

A lady who passed by us asked to pet her. Donna reminded her of her own dog, she said. In the last few months, Donna seemed to have gained confidence with meeting strangers, compared to when she met Uncle Gardener. She did not react to the lady’s hand hovering over her head.

The evening was cool and wet and she got all her paws muddy. But she returned with a healthy appetite for dinner and now lies on her side sleeping without fussing to play like she usually does after her meals.


I’m sorry if today’s post is a little melodramatic. It’s just how the words flowed today. :P

I decided to order a 3 feet-long crate for her. I wasn’t sure if I should get 2.5 feet or 3 feet because I vaguely remembered reading somewhere that the crate should not be too large so the dog would not eliminate in it. A call to the pet store was unfruitful as it could not give me the advice I needed. The pet store owner was too busy trying to explain to me that a dog crate is a plastic box and a dog cage is a metal enclosure but was unable to advise on which size to get.

I spent some time searching and reading before I found the clarification online. In general, the dog should be able to lie comfortably on her side and to sit comfortably without hitting her head, so a three-ft crate will likely be more comfortable for her 15kg frame. A smaller 2.5 feet  crate is only necessary for a dog that is not toilet-trained and is in the process of being house-trained.

We are getting the metal one which allows for greater air flow since our weather is typically hot and humid. Given her penchant for seeking shelter in the galley kitchen and under the coffee table, I think it should work great as a refuge for her (if introduced properly), especially on days when there is nobody home. Fingers crossed!

Dog food. Cat bowl.

Fresh puppy cake anyone? By today’s standards that cake probably has ended up in somebody’s tummy, got digested and returned back to the good earth many cycles ago already :P, since I took this picture in Australia more than a year back. How’s that for a retrospective view of puppy cake? :P

The puppy cakes were being sold in a shop called “Breadtop”.  We laughed when we saw it because we have a local chain of bakery shops called “Breadtalk” here in Singapore. The branding for both are fairly similar, wikipedia tells me Breadtop started a year after Breadtalk.  Regardless, these puppy cakes do look happy, don’t they? :P

Our not-so-little girl pup here is not so happy.

Ears are pressed back. A little worried looking.

The dog does it sometimes. If she realises that we are preparing to go out, she will quietly go to the far corner of the living room and hide under the coffee table, by the sofa. – – As shared in a post last week, we do leave food out for her so that she may be conditioned to associate the positive feelings brought about by the food to us leaving the house, rather than reinforce it and degenerate into severe separation anxiety. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn’t because she will wait until we return before she proceeds to eat the food.

I don’t really think there is a magic formula to solving this instantly, besides daily exercise and slowly working on counter-conditioning with her to moving away from that anxiety she seems to feel.

But if there were, perhaps it would look like this recipe :P

Recipe for a not-so-happy Donna puppy cake

Ingredients
For puppy cake,
“Erghh” brand Sour Cream, 1 cup
Frown’s Essence of Doom and Gloom, 1 teaspoon
Puppy’s tail wag of (un)yeast, 1 tail*
Chicken stock, 1 cup
4 or 5-star grain-free kibble, 1/2 cup
Organic positive self-reinforcement flour**, 2 cups

For icing,
Plain natural yoghurt***, 1 cup
Gobbledygook****, any amount (to induce her to eat it.)

For garnish,
strawberry, 1 half (for tongue)
sausage for dogs, 3 thin slices (for eyes and nose)

Instructions
1) Ground puppy’s tail to powder.
2) Mix sour cream and essence of doom and gloom in chicken stock.
3) Soak kibble in mixture for 5 minutes
4) Fold in powdered puppy’s tail and flour gently. Mix well.
5) Pour in round bowl and bake evenly until cooked.
6) Once done, remove from oven and let cool.
7) Slather all over with plain natural yoghurt
8) Decorate at will with sausage eyes, nose, strawberry mouth and gobbledygook about the body.
9) Serve while fresh.

Additional Notes:
* This tail is not traded legally. You will need to hunt for it, the dog usually hides it under the coffee table, by the sofa. Please note that the consumption of puppy and puppy parts are highly mortifying! Details, visit notodogmeat
** I know dogs don’t need carbohydrates but you must not skip the flour or the cake will not rise and neither will puppy’s spirits.
*** For good digestion. An unhappy pup is a constipated pup! :P
**** If Gobbledygook is unavailable in your area, you may substitute with boiled plain chicken, canned tuna in water or boiled egg, or all three. Preferably FRESH and see puppy slurp it up!

Last week, Jessica(@YDWWYW) wondered if picking the food off the floor when we get home helps to prevent the dog from not eating it until we return. Well this afternoon when I got back from lunch, she did her welcome home dance, just one wave of it (she usually dances towards you and then away from you in many waves), and then scrambled towards her bowl to gobble up her food hastily. Perhaps she has clued in to my intentions to remove the bowl once I take off my shoes. Haha.

I love the new cat bowl for her. It’s so self-satisfied. :P Meow, meow.

Disclaimer: Donna puppy cake recipe is fictional. I do not bake. Sorry! :P

Will you play with me?


This girl is dead serious playful.

Will you play with me? from weliveinaflat on Vimeo.

We didn’t train her to do this but perhaps because she knows she is not allowed in the bedroom, so she stepped into the room to deliver her toy as a play invitation before stepping back to sit “respectfully” outside the door.

I was quite amused when she did that. XD She doesn’t always do it of course. :P

Interpreting dog body language

I always thought it’s interesting how I’m not that great at reading humans, but since I’ve got a dog I’ve done a lot more reading about how to read dog body language. And I still have not read a single page or article about reading humans! Hah!

Anyway, I’m not an expert on this so I’m not going to write a textbook for you! :P

But suffice to say, keeping this blog going and taking pictures of Donna has made me more “in tune” to her body language, albeit looking at her pictures belatedly!! :P And hopefully with time, I get better at it!

But I think slowly, as she gets more comfortable with us, I need not worry every single time her body language seems to be hinting at some level of unease (based on the textbook definitions I have been reading).

It was cold and rainy this morning. I offered to play fetch but she looked at the toy thrown across the floor and was simply uninterested. She wanted to go for her morning walk instead. She decided going back to laze in bed was a better idea since she perhaps understood there’s no chance of us going for a walk with the rain outside?

what is my dog body language in this picture?

Although I do think she looked hopeful here. But once she realises I’m just going to stay there with my phone and there’s no hope of a walk, she settles down in her more cosy sleeping-donut position.

Here she is doing a whale eye:

what is my dog body language in this picture?

But her forehead is not knotted with tension and her tail is relaxed. So I thought she was just not ready to move but she’s looking at what I am doing out of the corner of her eyes.

what is my dog body language in this picture?

Usually if she doesn’t want the attention, she will move away and settle down with her back facing away from us. But in this case, she still doesn’t move away even when I went closer. Then I left her alone and she went to sleep.

And you know what, five months ago words like “whale-eye” and “lip licking” was not even in my vocabulary!! :D You can read all about it in my previous post – How not to test if your dog is child friendly I did say we were dog idiots many times on this blog, right?

So now, I shall direct you to the people who are more expert at dissecting and analysing dog body language than I am:-
– Is your dog comfortable with being petted? Take the hint: How to use the 5-second rule for petting dogs by Ahimsa Dog Training
– What does a fearful dog look like? The look of fear by Eileenanddogs
– Dog Body Language: How to tell if a dog is happy, frustrated, scared, annoyed – Part 1 and Part 2 – by Smartdog Blog

Hope this is helpful to you. Or if you are already expert at reading your dog, well I guess you would have clicked away even before getting to this line :P

What is this life if full of care…


– W.H.Davies

And so we did precisely that on a breezy, cloudy afternoon. Lame videos follow:

Just Donna observing a bird and enjoying the wind.

Donna absorbing the sights and sounds of everything around her. I think you can see her shift every time there is loud construction sound. Or am I just seeing things?

Have a great weekend! :)

Dog’s first night in new home

We are too young a blog to be nostalgic! But if you insist Weekly Photo Challenge, here are some pictures from Donna’s first home visit.


There’s her plastic basket bed with some towels from the shelter. She did not seem too attached to that though. We were advised to let her sleep in the room with us, which has its pros and cons.

Go to sleep Donna.

Think she slept?

NO!!!

The whole night I hear her nails clattering here and there as she couldn’t sleep and kept pacing about the room. Either that or she must be clattering in her sleep. I’ve noticed that she twitches frequently and sometimes lets out little yelps in her dreams.

I could not sleep at all. So out she goes the next night. :P

I later read that dogs are not nocturnal, but unless they are crate-trained, they are likely to wake up at several points in the night and move to different beds throughout the night. Apparently they like to have a variety of sleeping places. But if they are crate-trained, they can stay asleep in their crate for the whole night. That’s also why we made sure non-crate trained Donna has several different types of beds in the living room :D so she has options. Hah!

Although on hindsight, if you do have a new dog in the house, it would not be a bad idea to keep the dog close to you at the start. Leaving it alone for long hours may lead to mischief since the dog will be naturally curious and explore its new surroundings with happy licks and nibbles here and there. We were lucky she did not deal any significant damage to herself or to the property outside the bedroom the first home stay.

What pictures I have during the first home stay showed a very bored dog.


Because you see, we were spending time with her, versus spending time taking photographs of her. So the only time we did take pictures was when she was in repose, because we needed to send some pictures back to the shelter to show we have not murdered her! :P

But the photo challenges and just keeping this blog did encourage more interest in phoneography for me, so yay more pictures to be nostalgic about in future!

It’s not me, it’s the bed!


When there’s two of you, you can blame each other. When there’s one of you, blame anything.


The dog that didn’t know how to sleep on her bed properly has recently shown that adult dogs can learn new tricks. ;)

She now spends her time equally between her baby cot mattress and her cushion bed and has been properly resting her head off the floor. Well, except for the times she decided she should sprawl entirely on the floor, but I digress. As I was saying, the dog has become very comfortable with her new bed, so very comfortable in fact that she thought the bed needed a bedroom…

… apparently our bedroom will do just fine. The bed is not choosy.

Unfortunately for the bed and its canine bed partner, I am.

She’s trying to look like one of the furniture while I pull the bed back out into the corridor again.

On a separate note, we have made great progress with her fear of the big black plastic tray right there beside her.

We were originally advised that she was newspaper-trained, but newspapers were not the cleanest way for elimination at home. At the time, it made sense to us to get a tray on which to lay the newspapers so that it could collect any seepage. We could also easily push the tray under the sink so that the common toilet could still be used by house guests without the yucky feeling of dog pee on the toilet floor. Unfortunately, Donna decided she had a fear of the tray. I guessed the plastic tray slipped when she used it for the first time.

She is no longer afraid of it now and readily steps into it and does her tricks on it. It took a lot of encouragement, praise and treating to get her to even walk near the tray at first. This video helped me a lot in learning how to approach counter-conditioning her reaction to the plastic tray.

And we did have to go step by step from encouraging her to come near the try to trying to place one paw, two, three, etc on the scary tray. She struggled as I encouraged her to place one paw on the plastic tray. Her paw hovered up and down as she struggled with whatever conflicting doggy emotions she had. So in the end, I tried encouraging her to place her paw on my hand which I rested on the border of the tray. It took a lot of courage from her and a lot of clapping and praising on my end to get her there.

But once she willed herself to physically go on the tray by herself (I was already on it). She realised and was assured the tray was stable and that it was not going to slip with her on it. Slip-resistant mats and non-skid foam pads under the tray helped stabilise it well to build that assurance. Positive praise and encouragement did the rest of the job in securing her confidence.

So for now, the tray is staying in the corridor so that she gets very used to it, before we move it to the toilet and test if she is comfortable to eliminate on the newspapers and pee pad laid on it.

The newspapers and pee pad set up is still not ideal. Sometimes she gets her bottom and paws all wet which means she continues to drip and smear pee on the floor outside the toilet, sometimes all the way to the living room. But one step at a time, we thought we’ll solve our current problem first before introducing other home-elimination tools, such as raised pee trays that supposedly help eliminate the problem of wet paws from pee, etc.

Do you live in a flat/apartment? Do you have a set up that works for you and your medium or large dog at home? We would love to hear your recommendations!

Note: We usually take her downstairs to do it on the grass, but toilet training for the home is still necessary for emergencies e.g. throwing up or cases where we are not able to take her down for her regular loo breaks.

As for how the bed actually got there. The dog was having the time of her life getting high on her own antics, which involved hopping around the bed, wrestling with her towel and in general trying to dig a hole in the bed. I imagine the digging pushed the bed into the room.

It starts the moment you return


One hasty shot. Sorry,
photobombed by the bowl.

Local mongrel cheerleader
waving your pom-pom pup.

You’re a natural at it –
the welcome home dance.

Rain, rain, go away!

This year has been a year full of rain. Ever since Donna joined our family, the idea of a perfect, rainy afternoon has been turned over its head. Not one of peace, sitting clean and dry in the room listening to the pitter-patter of raindrops. No. Rainy days are days when the dog turns skittish and I try to pretend there is nothing wrong with the weather and live life as normal.

Here are some of the posts from the last few months.

Mar 29 – This is Donna worried about the thunder and refusing to leave the kitchen.

Apr 27 – The strong wind toppled the plants on our balcony. She was grinning with nervousness.

May 2 – Here am I trying to enjoy a warm coffee and a book on a rainy day while she finds some comfort using the furniture and I as the human shield.

Jun 7 – Across time, she has dealt with the rain and thunder inconsistently, sometimes better, sometimes worse. On good days, I had the leisure to contemplate the rain and the sky from the window. On bad days, I content myself with posting pointless posts on Donna’s tips for rainy days.

And after the rain which kept us in, we go out for our walk and get badgered by ants

… and other creepy crawlies.

Such is life. It’s different, but still good ;)

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